How to Avoid Conflict on Vacation

6 travel tips you didn’t know you needed for travel with friends

Just like you can’t live with everyone, you also can’t travel with everyone. There are some people you may love to death but if you traveled with them, you would lose your mind. Or you could be with the love of your life, and still be ready to shake them in an airport. But fear not, we’ve all been there. Drama can arise with anyone at any time. Here are our 6 tips to avoid conflict while traveling. Trust us, your trip will thank you.

Know your triggers (and theirs):

Whether it’s just 2 of you or a full group, make sure you know what ticks everyone off. Jordan & I both hate being late and have a tendency to get hangry when we don’t eat (mostly Jordan). Knowing that means that when we’re both hungry we give each other space, and if our plans get delayed, we try not to whine to each other because it will only drive up our frustrations. Knowing what makes you and those with you upset will help you understand sudden mood shifts and avoid added tension.

Keep the blame where it belongs

Speaking of things that can make you upset, remember that most times it’s not the fault of the person or people you’re traveling with. Alright, you know that moment when the flight’s delayed, and you’re ready to start pointing fingers at anyone who makes eye contact? Resist the urge. They also wish your flight wasn’t delayed but there’s nothing they can do. Avoid shifting blame to easy targets. So keep your frustration in check and avoid making someone else the punching bag.

Agree on your budget ahead of time

We’ll be honest. We are great at budgeting at home, but on vacation, we swipe like there’s no tomorrow. It works for us because we are both comfortable with that and we have no problem speaking up if we feel like a certain expense is too high. This helps us avoid that awkward moment when the bill comes and people start acting like mathematicians. Before you take off, make sure you have an idea of how much everyone is willing to spend. It’s totally possible to travel with a group of mixed budgets but if you don’t know that in advance, drama is guaranteed.

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Shut up:

Silence really is golden sometimes. Especially when you’re traveling with someone you don’t live with. You go from an occasional hangout to multiple days where you’re attached at the hip. It’s funny, you think you can handle being in close quarters with someone for days, but then you’re with them 24/7 and suddenly, you’re both looking for an escape. Silence is golden. No matter how much you love someone, that adjustment can be a lot. It’s ok to sit in companionable silence sometimes and just enjoy the views. Take a moment, recharge, and enjoy the moment—no words necessary. This is key to avoid conflict while traveling.

Allow for flexibility

This applies on a trip of any size, but especially for larger groups. Have activities for the larger group to enjoy but also offer free time and options for people to break off into smaller sections and do their own thing. It’s great to have a list of things the whole group will enjoy, but people need their space too. Nobody wants to feel trapped in an itinerary that doesn’t suit them. Let people do their own thing sometimes—flexibility is key to keeping the peace. Plus, you'll be way more likely to get those post-trip Instagram-worthy solo shots.

Respect boundaries

No is a complete sentence. If someone doesn’t want to do something or go somewhere, respect their choice. No one likes to be constantly pestered about something they have already politely turned down. Respect the "no" and move on. Respecting personal boundaries is the best way to keep things peaceful and enjoyable. This is a key to stress-free travel with friends, family, or partners.

Traveling can be the most fun you’ll ever have with people—if you follow these tips. A little patience, communication, and respect go a long way. So, whether you're traveling with a partner, a best friend, or a whole crew, keep these tips in your back pocket for a drama-free trip. Safe travels, folks!

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Safe Travels,

J & B